Bullies in relationships and at work try to convince you that you’re too weak or unskilled to resist them: They’ll win in the end. They’re more determined, nasty, sneaky. They want you to feel hopeless, helpless. They want your logic and reason to convince you that resistance is futile.
Kids can convince themselves to give up. It’s not worth the effort since the deck is stacked against them. Life is too hard, they’re too weak or defective, people are too nasty.
The effective response in both cases, the keys to success are the 3 Rs:
- Have resolve.
- Be resilient.
- Act relentlessly.
Those qualities are the engine we all need.
If we don’t have these qualities, we can’t make use of any help that’s offered. We give in, we give up. Even if we have a great plan, we don’t have the will and grit to carry it out successfully. Failure is guaranteed.
If we have these qualities, we grab onto help that’s offered. We keep trying. We create surprises. We can get lucky. We can attract allies. We can succeed against negativity, bullies and abuse. We can succeed in life.
The best way to learn how to create the life your spirit wants is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
- Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
- Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the bully-free life your spirit has always hungered for.
Read case study #6 in “How to Parent Bully-Proof Kids.” Also, read my new Kindle book, “How to Stop Sneaky Bullies.” Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert coaching by phone or Skype.