Self-Bullying can be sneakier, more relentless and more debilitating than problems caused by the unpredictable times and crashing economy. Your fear, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed can even be worse than problems caused by the toxic people in your life – the selfish, controlling, manipulative, back-stabbing, abusive, bullying, narcissistic people.
You know, your self-bullying; that little voice in your head that’s so self-judging and powerful. It’s relentlessly negative, critical, correcting and hostile in putting you down. That voice exaggerates all your faults and failure patterns; any time you succeeded it was dumb luck.
It’s especially bad for empaths, people-pleasers, fixers, enablers – people who don’t want to hurt anyone else’s feelings.
People who always find excuses for other people’s greed and selfishness, who put others first and themselves last, who have to give others another chance even after a thousand previous failed chances.
Life has been and is always full of risk. The future is unknown. It’s easy to give in to worry, doubt and insecurity; anxiety, stress and despair. It’s easy to lose energy and feel helpless, hopeless, overwhelmed and angry. That voice creates self-doubt and uncertainty; destroys self-confidence and self-esteem; paralyzes you. It can even cause physical symptoms.
How can you keep your solid footing; keep panic away; stay Centered, motivated, strong; keep your Spirit up; become the center of the storm; rise to the challenge? How can you gather yourself to deal with the immediate situation and the potential longer term problems?
Endless worry and analysis won’t help. Tossing and turning all night trying to predict and plan for every eventuality won’t help. Trying to answer every “What if?” question won’t help. Beating yourself down won’t help.
That Self-Bullying voice is not who you are, you weren’t born with it.
You were trained and brainwashed to bully yourself by people who wanted to control your life. Even now, bullies and narcissists stimulate your self-bullying.
In addition, now you use it to try to make yourself successful. Think how much more it will help you after it becomes a wonderful, effective coaching voice; encouraging and strengthening you?
Stop feeling and acting like a victim.
Don’t let fear, Self-Bullying and negative emotions blow you away. Don’t let your desperation and self-doubt make decisions for you. Instead, end your Self-Bullying. Get yourself unstuck. Get your energy back, recover your Spirit and drive. Feel Centered, calm and on top of things so you can move forward using all your adult skills with determination, strength and joy.
There is a light in the darkness. We will connect with your amazingly resilient and powerful Center, your Spirit, your Authentic Self. We will expand your Comfort and Calm Zone. From that Center, you will have strength and courage. You’ll develop the skill to carry out a personal plan effective in your specific situation. You can create the wonderful, joyous life you want!
Begin by watching this new video: How to stop Self-Bullying (especially for empaths, enablers and good girls)
https://youtu.be/M2qxpkRD6hg
When you want to learn how to stop bullying yourself and to start loving yourself, call me.
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.