It's easy to recognize overt bullying, narcissistic husbands. They act in the open. You know how toxic they are, even if circumstances make it difficult to stop them.
Sneaky, controlling, bullying, narcissistic husbands are just as toxic but harder to recognize and stop. They want you to think what they do isn't so bad, their control and abuse are your fault, only they know the truth, you don't remember what really happened and you don't recognize how wrong and guilty you are. You can't trust yourself.
Learn the seven common signs of sneaky bullying husbands.
Also, test yourself. Are you an empathic, pacifying, co-dependent, enabling fixer?
Do you feel self-doubting, guilty or victimized when you disagree, protest or beg for behavioral changes? Do you let him push every boundary you try to set or do you enforce real consequences for him? Do you accept being a second-class citizen or do you get an equal vote?
Do you assume he means the same thing as you do if he says he loves you? Don't believe his words. His actions tell the truth. It's not real love if he loves you because you're his servant, slave, Cinderella or scapegoat.
Your anger is not the problem here. Your pain, frustration and anger are appropriate.
The problem is his behavior. Your children don't need a father like that. You don't have to prove he's a bullying, narcissist in court; you don't need his agreement or permission to get free from slavery.
Don't remain a victim; you're not stuck forever, you're not helpless and it's not hopeless. Stop living in fear and desperation.
There is a better way.
There is a path where you can live your individual and unique life with joy. Honor and love the Spirit in you. You don’t need their permission to save your Spirit.
There is a light in the darkness. We will connect with your amazingly resilient and powerful Center, your Spirit, your Authentic Self. We will expand your Comfort Zone. From that Center, you will have strength and courage. You'll develop the skill to carry out a personal plan effective in your specific situation. You can create the wonderful, joyous life you want!
Begin by watching this new video: Stop sneaky, narcissistic, bullying husbands.
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When you want to decide about your husband; when you want to learn how to have a bully-free life, call me.
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.