What can you when your controlling, bullying, narcissistic, toxic parents want you to serve them day and night?
They’ll continue to use you like a servant, a slave, Cinderella and a scapegoat. They’re entitled.
You, as an individual human person, deserve nothing, don’t count, don’t get a life of your own. They never allowed you to have a boundary. If you don’t do absolutely every little thing they want and when and how they want it, you’re selfish.
They’ll control you, blame you and push your shame and guilt buttons. They’ll give you the loud silent treatment or they’ll whine or demand. They might try to force you to move in with them. They might spoil your children to turn them against you or rally extended family against you.
You became the competent, capable, fixer/co-dependent enabler.
They tormented you but you had to keep silent in order to survive. They brainwashed you in their Cult of torment, pain and duty. They used and abused you. But you must honor and respect them.
Your Inner Knowing tells you that “honor them” does not mean “obey them.”
Instead, honor your Inner Knowing; not their certainty and righteousness, or pleading. They don’t know best. Don’t let their opinions sway you.
You do know the truth about your toxic, bullying, abusive parents. Every once in a while, they said they loved you, so you convinced yourself they finally did. But if they really loved you, would they continue to treat you that way?
On the other hand, now that the economy has crashed, what will they do without you? How can you abandon them? What if the worst happens to them?
You’re stuck in an inner war, stimulating your self-bullying, self-doubt, frustration and helplessness.
What’s the price of tolerating bullies, narcissists, toxic parents? Slow erosion of your soul and keeping them selfish, entitled, weak and demanding victims of their own choices. “Forgive and forget” won’t help you.
There is a better way. There is a path where you can live your individual and unique life with joy. Honor and love the Spirit in you. You don’t need their permission to save your Spirit.
There is a light in the darkness. We can expand your Comfort Zone and create a personal plan that will be effective in your specific situation.
Begin by watching this new video: Stop serving bullying, narcissistic, toxic parents.
https://youtu.be/I7sd5YB-vjA
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.