Here’s an easy test to see if you’re with a bully – at home, in relationships, at work and at school.
Do you walk around on eggshells?  Are you afraid of the next explosion or angry, negative, critical, personal attack?  Do you receive the loud silent-treatment?  Do you fear retaliation and sneaky punishment?  Are you wary of the next accidental destruction or your property, pets or person?  Have you given up arguing and defending yourself because they’re a better debater or they wear you down?

You don’t need more psychoanalysis of the person you’re with.
That person is bullying and abusive.  That person lets their feelings drive their life.  They always blame you for their bad feelings.  And they always have good reasons, excuses and justifications for their abuse.   Don’t cling to a few good memories or promises.  See all the painful episodes every time you look at them.

Trust your Gut!

Say, “Enough!  I’m done with that.”
I won’t let them torture my heart any more.  You have to set goals and be more determined, resilient and relentless.  You don’t have to win the argument, you just have to get that behavior out of your environment.  Don’t let them pollute your sacred space.

Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation.  The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:

  1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
  2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.

Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.

AuthorBen Leichtling