“Terrorist” can be a more powerful word than “narcissist” to motivate us to stop bullies at home.

Many people have said that once they saw their abusers – their spouse, their toxic parent, their teenager, their toxic adult child, their supposed friend – as terrorists, all those negative, critical, controlling, manipulative, destructive actions, the lies, the gas-lighting, the put-downs became clear and they could rally themselves to defeat their oppressor.  Terrorist accurately described the terror they felt when being attacked by those vicious predators.

Narcissist, they said, was a nice, psycho-jargon word but it led them to endless analysis and to little compelling energy to defend themselves.

The label was all it took for them to see, instantly, the patterns; to see the future if they didn’t get help to resist; to decide to fight back.  They knew, instantly, that reasoning, education and negotiation aren’t effective when dealing with terrorists.  The label relieved them of self-doubt and guilt.

Of course the fight would be hard, but at least, they knew what they were up against.

Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation.  The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:

  1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
  2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.

Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.

AuthorBen Leichtling