I’ve added two new videos to my YouTube channel. They’re 4-5 minute clips on specific areas of how to stop bullies at home and in relationships.
End estrangement from narcissistic, toxic, adult children:
You were not a bad parent; you didn’t do anything particularly wrong. If anything you gave too much. But now these adult bullies blame you for everything in their past and for all their present problems. The hatred and anger, the manipulating and controlling, the bullying and abuse, goes on and on.
We talk about how to make something wonderful out of your remaining 20-30-40-50 years. Be the hero of the rest of your life. Take charge of your future by taking charge of yourself.
Stop bullying by narcissistic, controlling, toxic parents:
Even though you’re an adult, narcissistic, controlling, toxic parents can still make your life miserable. No matter how much they bullied and abused you when you were younger, they still claim you owe them respect and loyalty, and you should do what they want and need now. They don’t value your opinion or standards; they know best; you’re not important, they are; you’re still the bad child; you’re selfish and ungrateful; and you’re crazy because you don’t accept their view of reality or of your motives. Blah, blah, blah.
This is a test for you. This is a moment of truth. This is where you choose the beliefs, attitudes, rules and roles for yourself as an adult. This is where you have a chance to throw off the burden of the brain-washing they subjected you to for years.
You must stand up against the culture they tried to beat you into. You must start living by a new culture; one that fills your heart, mind and spirit.
You owe them nothing. You owe everything to your future and the wonderful life you can create. You owe everything to the family you need to protect and to set an example for. Protecting your personal space is more important than ineffective old rules about “polite” behavior.
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
- Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
- Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.