April is a bully. But you might not recognize her as one because she portrays herself as a perpetual victim. And that makes her bullying hard to discern – and even harder to fix.
So what do you do with “professional victims” whose feelings are always hurt, who are always angry, complain about everything and demand that the workplace be made to suit their convenience?
First, you need to recognize that they’re bullies who use their super-sensitive, hurt feelings to gain power and control.
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Don’t let ‘professional victims’ gain power
April became an unofficial power center in the team because her latest manager tried to pacify her by giving in to whatever she wanted. Other people on the team saw April had power and control, and either became part of her gang or got out of the way as best they could.
Finally, April’s manager decided to act. The result of his actions was that as April lost power and control, other members of the team began to leave her clique. They stepped forward to expose some of the dirty tricks April had used in her rise to power.
The professional victims you bend over backwards for, like April, are the ones most likely to file grievances when you stop giving them everything they want. They’ve been trained to think they’re entitled to special treatment. But with your good documentation, they won’t win.
April’s manager had finally seen the light: He couldn’t sacrifice everyone else on the team to please one person. He saw that if he gave April any fraction of what she demanded, she’d never stop complaining. He couldn’t let her become the ruler of the team. That was his responsibility.
Professional victims can control individuals, families and groups in personal life also. But, like splinters, they can be removed.
The best way to learn how to stop professional victims who gain power and control is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and organizational consulting.
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