What do you do if your coworkers gang up against you?
If one person dislikes you, you may be able to be able to communicate logically and rationally to build bridges and work through whatever’s bothering them.
But once a gang or mob has started attacking you, a reasonable approach isn’t effective and actually invites more pain.
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Stop workplace bullies and mobs; don’t be a victim
Suddenly it became clear. They were plotting to get her. But why? What had she done to them?
Though people who participate in these mobs always have reasons and justifications that blame the target for their bad behavior, those reasons aren’t really what motivate the attacks.
Mobbing is simply a part of human nature. People gang up on others to exert power or control, or for the thrill of participating in a gang. Or it can simply be the nastiness of little boys or girls who pull the legs off ants. Sometimes, people are afraid of resisting and becoming targets also. We have a natural, human desire to be on the winning team.
You won’t be able to stop a mob by asking them nicely to stop. Trying to be sweet to a mob is as effective as asking a pack of hyenas to leave you alone because you’re a vegetarian. Failing to complain verbally and in writing simply encourages them to harass and abuse you more. They’ll see your sweetness and restraint as weakness and an invitation to pile on more.
Attempts to educate mobs don’t succeed. All the while, targets suffer. Don’t be a victim. Learn to push back legally, firmly and effectively.
The best way to learn how to stop bullies, individually or in mobs, is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and organizational consulting.
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