There comes a time for most of us (an age and stage appropriate time) when our Soul (or our Spirit, if you prefer) cries out to be fed, to be nourished, to finally get to direct our lives.
Often, we can see we have a third of our life left. Make it grand, magnificent, awesome; full of wonder and joy; full of the deepest peace. Be the hero of your life, an example of what’s possible.
This is especially true for people who have spent their lives doing what comes naturally and what they were trained for; taking care of spouses and kids, helping, supporting, people-pleasing and enabling.
Feed your Soul; not your childhood rules.
Many people were trained to think their life’s work was to make sure others came first, to care for others, to give them what they wanted, to be co-dependent. Of course, when our children are little, we must take care of them; their lives do depend on us.
Then comes the time when we must kick them out of the nest, when they must fly on their own, when their survival depends on their own efforts. We are no longer “mommy” or “daddy” wiping their noses, keeping them away from hot stoves, paying for everything. We are now loving parents wanting loving, adult relationships.
We can’t give in to the old rules that we must make sure everyone else is settled and secure before we’re allowed to take care of ourselves. We don’t have to save everyone first. Now, we must listen to what’s been calling from the depths of our Souls.
It’s selfish to feed your personality and ego; it’s not selfish to feed your Soul.
Some cultures were clear about the stages of life:
- Our childhood.
- Our householder days.
- Feeding our Souls
I’m not talking about running away with the pool boy or pool girl. I’m not talking about throwing away spouses or partners. I am talking about clearing out the selfish, narcissistic, bullying, abusive, controlling, entitled, vultures, hyenas and leeches so we can focus on feeding and nourishing our Souls.
It’s simple to know what your Soul needs; not necessarily easy to figure out how to do it.
What makes your Soul sing? Stop bullying yourself. Let your guilt evaporate; it’s only bad gas. And if the old, outdated rules say it’s wrong to spend money on yourself, tell that voice to grow up. Live within your means and feed what’s been starving.
Let your Soul run your life.
End the inner war by siding with your Soul. Use your adult skills in the service of your Soul.
Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation. The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:
- Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
- Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert counseling and coaching by phone or Skype.