Most of Wendy’s sentences had phrases like, “It’ll be interesting to see if I really do what I want,” “I hope I’ll do that,” and “What if I don’t carry through on my commitments.”

Wendy was a worrier.  She didn’t trust herself.  She knew that underneath her successful veneer a battle was going on, a war between two sides of her over which would take charge – her old childhood fears and rules versus her adult dedication to what she wanted now.

Wendy’s language was that of a bystander, a spectator of that struggle.  It was as if she was sitting on her couch watching a battle for her soul and future and never getting in the arena.

When Wendy looked at her struggle this way she was able to move forward.  She became determined to be a participant in her life.  Actually she took charge of her future by taking charge of the struggle.  She knew what she wanted to do, she knew what she wanted her life to look like.  So she brought both sides together as grown-ups and applied both to the path she wanted.

She felt clear and strong, even though she thought it wouldn’t be easy.  And she noticed her language changed to, “When I do this.”  She thought of her inner development as if she was strengthening the muscle of her courage and determination.  All it took was practice and perseverance.  And her muscles would naturally become stronger.

Wendy had decided to become the heroine of her life.
Her life needed one and who else was going to do the job?  She could resolve the conflict by being the major participant in her future and by getting both sides to help her get what they both wanted for her – a wonderful, joyous life…every day.

History is not destiny.

Of course, there are many complications depending on your situation.  The best way to learn how to take power in your life and to be the person you want to be is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and counseling so you can:

  1. Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
  2. Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the life your spirit has always hungered for.

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AuthorBen Leichtling