Toxic parents and abusive husbands will lie. They’ll lie to you and they’ll lie to themselves. They’ll tell lies to relatives, friends and even strangers to make you look bad and to turn them against you. Of course, abusive, controlling wives act the same way.
When you finally stand up against those manipulative parents and bullying husbands, be prepared.
Shine a light on their tactics and see who believes you or them. Tell other people you’re going to stand up in public and that if they hear bad things about you or if they feel upset or hurt when they’re told things about you, you’d like them to call you so you all can discover the truth.
Standing up in public is important. Speak openly and honestly. Call lies and bullying what they are. Bullies want you to keep silent because you’re embarrassed or polite. Don’t argue, debate or try to prove your case. Don’t let them distract you. Just state the truth and your outrage over and over.
Remind other people about your character. Remind them of their past history dealing directly with you. Who has been the lying manipulators and who have been the targets?
Then remove from your inner circle anyone who believes the perpetrators. Remember, you are not proving yourself to a judge and jury. You are testing other people and will allow them close to you only if they believe you.
Overt bullies are easier to catch. Covert, sneaky bullies are harder to get evidence about. But you can count on most people in the family finally figuring it out. In addition, when you start standing up against the harassment and lies in public, many others will follow your lead and become witnesses and allies. And you’ll become stronger and more courageous.
The best way to stop toxic parents and abusive husbands, and to create a bully-free life is to hire Dr. Ben for personalized coaching and consulting so you can:
- Develop the strength, courage, will and determination to be and to act your best resolutely, diligently and effectively.
- Develop a plan and master the skills necessary to create the bully-free life your spirit has always hungered for.
Since all tactics depend on the situation, call me at 1-877-8Bullies for expert coaching by phone or Skype.